Two Kinds of People

There are two kinds of people.....

Those who pee in the shower and those who don't.

Illin'

Blech, blech, blech......

I have green snot, I can't breathe and my head is stuffed up.  

I am sick, sick, sick.

However, they say that every cloud has a silver lining.  Well, assholes, I keep looking but I can't find the silver.  I would settle for aluminum at this point, but I got nuthin'.

It's very difficult to be sick with two very active children and a high-pressure career....  So I am hauling my - getting larger every day - ass to the doctor for some drugs.  Any drugs will do right now.

Amen

Laughing Out Loud

I have been one very moody bitch lately.....   Luckily I have great people in my life to pull me out of my snits.

I just thought I would share the FUNNIEST thing I have heard in a really, really, really long time.

So this week, I asked someone "What do you call Semen with no sperm in it?"  And without missing a beat, he replied "A delicious breakfast drink."

I peed a little and I'm not ashamed of it.

Amen

So Creative.....

To take a break from my regularly scheduled bitching and moaning, I would like to present one of the most creative people that I have the pleasure of having in my life.  She is brilliant and amazing and caring and loving and I have the ultimate gift of calling her mom.....

http://bluerosesewing.blogspot.com/

If you take a few minutes to check out her site and send her some love, it would be much appreciated.  Not only is she successful in the business world, but she is ridiculously creative.

We all have our own gifts, but damn so I wish I could sew.

Amen

Let Down

I have been feeling lately like the world has let me down.  I heard some disturbing news the other day about someone that I thought was a friend of mine.  Now I know that is not true.  The relationship I thought we had was more about convenience and proximity than any real kind of friendship.  And it pisses me the fuck off.  Seriously.

I see a therapist and I have been since the beginning of the year.  She has helped me tremendously.  I get these waves of guilt and frustration and anger and about a million other emotions that just wash over me when I think about the past nine years of my life.  And guess what?  It's not all my fault.  For once, I am going to try to take other peoples' advice and realize that I do not have to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders.  

So to all those people out there who were friends of convenience?  The ones who only wanted to be around me during the good times?  Yeah.  You.  Go fuck yourselves.  I think you suck.  And I do not need people like you in my life anymore.

Amen.

A New Post

It has been months and months since I have written ANYTHING.  This used to be the place where I would let all of my emotions spill out.  The place where I felt free to say anything I wanted to say.  But for a while the words just dried up for me.  I couldn't completely explain what I was feeling inside.  Not even in my blog.

In the months of my hiatus, there has been a whirlwind of change in my life.  And I do not feel the need to elaborate on my situation or to share it with anyone.  And by anyone, I really mean the zero people that come here now.  But I am cool with that.  When I first started posting, there was not a soul who read me and I was doing it for my own benefit.  I think I need to get back to the basics.  I need to get back to the time when this place was a safe haven for me to say anything I wanted to without feeling like I was offending anyone.

So I am back.  Whether or not I still have anything in me to write has yet to be determined, but I'll be damned if I quit writing all together.  This is a form of therapy for me and I want to give it another shot.

Besides.... nobody will be reading this anyway.  I am positive that I am out of the feed readers at this point and I don't think I am half as funny as I used to be.

So this is for me.  For my sense of well-being.

And if you don't like it.... suck a bag of dicks.

Amen.

The 45

I am bored having sat in front on my 'puter for the last 5 hours and worked, so I need a mental break.  What better way than sharing way too much information about myself with the blogosphere.

1. Do you like blue cheese? Not really.  I like yellow cheese.  Or sometimes white cheese.  I also do not like cottage cheese.

2. Have you ever been drunk? Well, I was feeling really kinky this one time in the bathtub and gave him a straw to use.  Does that count?

3. Do you own a gun? Not yet.  But I will be getting one as soon as I learn how to use it.  I have to travel to some really BAD places now.  But I don't want to accidentally shoot myself... so I need some lessons.  And a license.  Right now the only licenses I have are my driver's license and my License to Ill

4. What flavor of Kool Aid is your favorite? the kind with vodka in it.

5. Do you get nervous before doctor appointments? I used to.  But since she started using the KY it's not as painful.

6. What do you think of hot dogs? I think people who show off have something to hide.

7. Favorite Christmas movie? I am secretly turned on by the Grinch.

8. What do you prefer to drink in the morning? The last of the beer from the night before.

9. Can you do push ups? I can do push-up.  One.  I'm weak.

10. What's your favorite piece of jewelry? Cock Rings.  They go with everything.

11. Favorite hobby? Barking at people.  Or chasing cars.

12. Do you have A.D.D. ? What's that?  I might.  I can't remember.  Oh look at the pretty bird.  What was the question?

13. What's your favorite shoes? Are you kidding me?  Do you people not know me yet?

14. Middle name? I have three.

15. Name 3 thoughts at this exact moment? What to do?  What to do?  What to do?

16. Name 3 drinks you regularly drink? Captain Morgan's.  Diet Coke.  Captain Morgan's and Diet Coke.

17. Current worry? LIFE

18. Current hate right now? LIFE

20. How did you bring in the New Year? Where did #19 go?  Did it disappear?  Is it hiding?  Why do you mess with me so?

21. Where would you like to go? Anywhere I can be happy, healthy and whole again.

22. Name three people who will complete this? I wish this question disappeared and not #19.  I really want to know what it was.

23. an unusual food you tried?  Cock.  Too salty.

24. What color shirt are you wearing right now? I don't like wearing shirt.  They cover up my boobs.

25. Do you like sleeping on Satin sheets? No.  The stains show up more vividly.

26. Can you whistle? Only while I work.  And only when I put my teeth in.

27. Favorite color? Magenta

28. Would you be a pirate? Um.  I am a pirate.  Everyone says so.

29. What songs do you sing in the shower? Gimme That Nut by Eazy E

30. Favorite Girl's Name? Why?  Really?  Who Cares?

31. Favorite boy's name? West Virginia

32. What's in your pocket right now? There are no pockets in my thong.

33. Last thing that made you laugh? The Welshly Arms Hotel

34. Best memories as a child? Being able to hide away in a book.

35. Worst injury you've ever had as a child? Where would I even start?  I had to live in a bubble for a week once.  That sucked ass.

36. Do you love where you live? Not really.

38. Who is your loudest friend? BBS  Where the fuck is #37?  Why do these things keep disappearing on me?

39. How many dogs do you have? 2.  My cat still has not mastered throwing chinese stars.

40. Does someone have a crush on you? Doesn't everyone?

41. What is your favorite book? I've Got a Major Case of the DT's by Little Brown Jug

42. What is your favorite candy? Jalapeno Jelly Beans

43. Favorite Sports Team? Again.. do you people not know me?  I LOVE all sports and refuse to answer this question because it may incriminate me.

44. What is your favorite food at your favorite restaurant? Chilean Sea Bass in a Lemon Butter Sauce from Mallorca.  It's about 4500 calories.  Good stuff.

45. What song do you want played at your funeral? Whiskey Lullabye

I'm a Hero

So one of my favorite blogs is Dave2.  He is funny and witty and insightful and I stalk his blog all of the time.  Plus he has a Bad Monkey and draws some pretty hilarious cartoons.  So I totally ripped off his post this last Saturday to create my own Super Hero.

Behold... the awesomeness that is the ADW.  I think that is going to stand for Advanced Douchebag Whacker.  Or maybe Amazing Dildo Wielder.  Or even Astounding Dipshit Wadledoodler.  The last one was lame.  Sorry.  I am drained.

I am bad ass.  Do you see my whip?  And my angel wings?  And the skin tight outfit that totally wouldn't fit me in real life?  But in real life I would more likely have devil horns so I am taking creative license to do whatever the fuck I want.  So there.

Don't mess with me or I will beat your ass.  I will slash you with my whip and then I will pour vinegar on your wounds and then beat a cool breeze down on you with my wings which will make it burn even worse.  Then I will crush you with my thighs.  Oops.  I am confusing Super Hero with James Bond vixen.

Oh snap!  Wouldn't a program that allows you to create your own Bond character be totally great?  Holy shit.  Someone needs to get on that STAT!  Not me because you know, completely not creative.... but someone please create that application.

Now I have the urge to make my own Bond Girl.  Actually vixen.  They are always cooler than the Bond Girls.  Like Grace Jones.  What a totally kick as bitch she was in "A View to Kill."  

OK.  I really need to go get ready for a busy day. 

Peace out fuckers!

Laughter and an Update

There is something to be said for the importance of laughter.  Especially for me.  Laughter gets me through my day and I appreciate when someone else tries to make me smile.  I think I have a good sense of humor... although it is a bit infantile at times.

There are so many things in life that I could complain about, but I won't.  Instead, I am trying to focus on the good things that are going on and looking at obstacles as a chance to make changes or an opportunity that is presenting itself in a different way.  

While it isn't even in my top 100 of favorite songs, Garth Brooks' "Unanswered Prayers" keeps going through my head these days.  Maybe some of the things that we think we want or need but don't get are really chances to do something else.  Something that can lead to more.  More happiness, more contentment, more whatever.  And I keep thinking to myself that things could always be worse.  I have wonderful children, a supportive circle of friends and family who care about me, a great career that I enjoy more and more all of the time these days.  So when I think about the trials and tribulations and the turmoil that has occurred in the past, I have to believe that all of those things came about to bring me to a better place.  I don't know where that place is yet, but I have this renewed sense of optimism that it is there just waiting for me to find it.

Whether that place is where I am at right now remains to be seen.  As you know, things have been tough, especially emotionally, for a while now.  Normally I am not a patient person.  OK, I am never patient, but with my new attitude, I feel like if I just wait a while that this good thing I believe is out there will happen.  Maybe I am not in the place where I was meant to be, maybe I am.  I don't know the answers to that yet.  But I do know that there is a spot in the universe where I can be happy and fulfilled.  

I just came home from traveling all week and I am really tired.  But this weekend, I get to guest bartend at a benefit for the Tay-Sachs foundation.  This is a chance for me to do some good.  I love Dakota and her entire family and her story has been an inspiration to so many people.  And it's going to be a blast.  I am in my element when I can be sassy and provocative and there is not better stage that I can think of than slinging drinks to people for a few hours.  So I get to help raise money for a wonderful cause and have fun at the same time which a desperately need right now.

As usual, I am rambling and there is no structure or meaning in this post, but there is a point.  Sort of.  As my life unfolds further, I can't help but feel that there are good things waiting right around the corner.  Or maybe a few blocks over.  But I want to put the effort into finding out what those things are.  I am sick and tired of being unhappy and bitching and moaning about that state.  I want to be proactive in my own life for once instead of taking whatever the universe hands me and then crabbing about it.  The only person I can blame for my unhappiness is myself because I am allowing myself to be unhappy.

So there.

Heartbroken

I have been so incredibly sad lately.  Sad and heartbroken.  In a world where I consider myself a fighter.  A big, bad ass, spit in your face as soon as look at you fighter.  And I have no fight left in me.  I am empty inside.  

It's so very difficult to explain to someone what that means.  But when you are someone like me, you tend to have an on/off switch.  When I was younger, that switch got flipped a lot more.  Now with age and experience, I have been able to keep that switch on.  Even when everything in me was screaming to turn the it off and shut the door.  To walk away and not look back.  I have kept the switch turned on.  The light bulbs were mostly burnt out, but that didn't stop me from believing that they would turn on again.  Now...... well now I think it's time to walk away.  Because I can't keep the lights on all by myself.  And I am sick to death of trying.  If being put into the position where I am a bad - fill in the blank - if I don't keep at it.  If I don't do everything possible, I will regret it.

Guess what people?  I am not a saint.  Not even close to one.  In fact, I am the opposite side of the saintly spectrum.  I would never intentionally hurt another person, but god damn am I sick of walking around on eggshells and biting my tongue.  What about my feelings?  You know, I do have feelings.  I guess I have been so good at building walls that other people forget that I am a mere human with human emotions.  And then I get hurt and I shut down.  The switch flips and I am D-O-N-E done.

The last couple of days have been so emotionally draining for me and I feel like pulling my hair out.  That or sticking my head in an oven until I look like a crazy Helena Bonham Carter character.  I don't really think it's fair that as a woman I am automatically judged by two standards.  How good a mother I am and how good a wife I am.  That's not fair.  Especially since I work in a highly professional world where I am not only at the top of my game, but I am very respected within the market I work.  I have busted my ass for the last seven years to make sure that I got where I have and I don't appreciate that being brushed aside because other people think I have to fit into a mommy mold.  

Don't get me wrong, the greatest joy in my life are my two children and the fact that I have managed to raise very wonderful kids.  But it pisses me the fuck off that I am first judged by those two standards and that I am being made to feel like a failure because one of them isn't doing so well.  Again.

I am so over trying to live up to other people's expectations of me - including my family's.  I love them, but they can be very judgmental even though they try not to be.  I can't stay in a situation that makes me so unhappy.  Not for me, not for my children, not for anyone.  And the biggest problem is that I am going to end up hurting someone that I truly love.  But loving someone and being able to be with them are two different things and I am now starting to recognize that.  I am now beginning to understand that I shouldn't have to be hurt over and over again by someone who should cherish me.  And before you start the lynching, let me just say that it doesn't meant that they are a bad person, because they are the opposite of that.  But I just can't live like this anymore.

I don't care if anyone reads this.  Or my blog anymore for that fact.  I am going back to what I originally set this up for and that is an outlet for my emotions.  Good, bad or ugly this is the place where it's all going to come out, so hold on to your cocks.... it's gonna be a bumpy ride.

Tay Sachs Fundraiser - I'll Dance on the Bar

Hey everyone!  I thought I would post this so that anyone who is interested in attending would be able to do so.

As many of you know, my wonderful friends Julie and Ken Bihn have two great daughters.  Their oldest daughter plays soccer with my daughter and I have been so very blessed to have their family touch my life.  Their younger daughter Dakota has Tay Sachs disease and for anyone who is interested in learning more, please click on the link on the upper right hand side of the page.  

Ken and Julie are truly an inspiration to everyone around them and have raised a huge amount of money for Tay Sachs research and we all believe that there will one day be a cure for this disease.  Several months ago, Julie and I were brainstorming and came up with a great idea!  Why not have a fundraiser at a bar?  Sell tickets, eat and drink, have a raffle and dance.  So with the help of the Blue Moose Saloon in Parma, Ohio (where I once bartended), we have finally planned our event.  February 21st - a Saturday - from 6:30 - 8:30 we will be holding the fundraiser.  Julie and I (no offense Julie, but please put emphasis on the I), will be guest bartending (-=.  The tickets are 25.00 each and 15.00 from each ticket will be donated to the Cure Tay Sachs foundation.  The other 10.00 will go to the restaurant to pay for the food and the drinks.  There will be a reverse raffle as well and I think we probably have a couple of surprises up our sleeves for other things.

If anyone is interested in attending, please let me know.  I am aware that most of you are from out of town, but if any of you know people in the Cleveland area who would want to come, please encourage them to do so.  We have just under a month to sell our tickets and I am hoping that we get at least 200 people there which would be such a great thing.

If you can't go or aren't interested, I completely understand.  With everyone's lives so busy, it is understandable that you can't do it all.  

Please pray that there is no snow that day!

Also, if you get me in a REALY good mood, we might end up dancing on the bar which is a hit no matter where you are, so win/win.

Thank you all for your support of my friends and their foundation.  

ADW

Nashville

After all of the emotional turmoil of the last few weeks, I felt like I was going to have a nervous breakdown.  So, bronchitis, ear infection and all, my girlfriend and I took off for Nashville on a spur of the moment trip.  Oh my God was that amazing!

First of all, who in their right mind decides to take a three day weekend at 7:00 PM on a Friday night and is on the road by midnight?  But we did.  We packed up and I went and picked her up at her place.  I made hotel reservations at the Hilton in Downtown Nashville two hours before I left.  

At the start of the trip, my GPS said that we would be arriving at 8:49 AM.  Our actual arrival time was 6:03 AM.  Tee-Hee.  I knocked almost 2 hours off of the drive time and totally forgot about the hour time difference.  Luckily the hotel was amazing (plus I am an Honors member) and they let us check in super early.

The weekend was amazing.  We went to the Country Music Hall of Fame - which I like better than the Rock Hall.  We had AMAZING BBQ at Jack's on Broadway.  We went to a bunch of bars, met some of the nicest people around and ended up at Tootsies Wild Orchid which is a Nashville tradition where most, if not all of the country music legends have played.

And I danced on the bar.

And I only got into one altercation.

The music?  Defies description.  Hands down the best live country/rock/honky tonk music I have ever heard.  And the crazy thing is that there are NO cover charges at any of these bars.  The bands play for FREE.  They pass out tip buckets and play requests for tips.  Now trust me, this weekend, the guys and gals were raking it in, but not one time all evening on Saturday did any of the bands we see take a break.  They played all night long and their voices somehow managed to stay intact.

The fiddle player was the best thing I saw all night.  Beautiful and talented, this young woman (Cara was her name) set the roof on fire with her playing.  I wouldn't have been surprised to see fire shooting off of her instrument.  I am so jealous!

Sunday wasn't as nice since we were both recovering from drinking half the rum in the city, but we went out and had brunch, a nap and then went back out for dinner.  It was a relatively early night for us and we are now on the road back to Cleveland.

But if anyone is interested in taking a trip to Nashville, I would highly recommend it.  Maybe not in January - it was a little chilly- but if you like live music, friendly people and a god time, Nashville can't be beat.

Thanks to everyone for their support and love these last few days.

ADW

Complete and Utter Frustration

Eeekkk!!

Honestly, it seems like all I do these days is bitch and complain and moan without imparting a whole lot of information on why I am really upset.  I kind of feel like this blog is a waste of time.  I don't really have a whole lot of time to focus on writing anymore and it has always been such a big outlet to me.  I am not a good blogger because I haven't been commenting, even though I do still read a lot of the blogs I always read before.  So I am trying to figure out if I should even try to keep the blog.  

It's not that I don't want to write, I do.  But my focus has been so pulled lately that it is making me nuts.  I don't like doing anything half-assed and it feels like that's what has been posted up here for the last year.

Plus, well, the personal life ain't so great.  I am constantly feeling alone in a house full of people.  It's hard to explain and I have been hanging on for so long that I am this giant, nuclear melt-down type of breaking point.  I try to explain it to friends and family but they honestly don't get it.  You can't when you aren't in someone else's life 24/7.  

There was a major ultimatum given in my house 2 months ago and while on the surface things have changed, underneath it is the same old shit.  The crazy thing is that I have such a low threshold for bullshit and drama in my personal life that I can not believe that things have gotten as bad as they are.  

So now, in two weeks, we have the ultimate showdown.  I didn't want to do it.  I really didn't, but my hand was forced.  I wanted the other person to take some responsibility and take the next step.  But they are satisfied with the status quo and don't want anything to rock their happy little boat.  God forfuckingbid that your life changes so mine can get better.  If this last thing doesn't work, my life is going to get even more complex.  And maybe I am being lazy too. Instead of trying to make it better for me, I am just making everyone else around me miserable.  

I don't want to be that bitter, unhappy person that I knew the whole time I was growing up.  I'd rather be alone.

I don't believe in love anymore.  Not the kind that lasts.  Not a legacy for the following generations.  I've never had that.  Things that I have so badly wanted out of life just never seemed to appear.  And maybe I should be happy with what I have.  But I am not the type to settle.  

Things could be worse.

That makes me sad that I think that way.  

So I keep see-sawing back and forth knowing that if I am forced to make a decision on my own mental health and happiness, I am going to hurt someone that I still care about.  Someone I wanted so badly to be a life partner and not a roommate in a house where we share a mortgage.  I just feel like breaking down and crying and I don't cry.  I hate that emotional outlet because it drains me and really doesn't take care of or fix any of my problems.

I don't want to hurt anymore.  I don't want to be hurt anymore.  Nothing is giving.

I feel like the biggest loser in the world.  Why can't I make things work?  Why can't I just be happy with things the way they are?  Why do I always want and need more out of life?  Fulfillment?  Peace and serenity?  A clear path?

I can't answer these questions for myself, so I am going to go to someone else for help.  Uh, I'm not so good on relying on other people's opinions... trained or not.  And it's almost for me like my mind is made up.  Can I really do this?  I don't know.  I don't know anything right now.

So I will try to not be that compulsive crazy person that I normally am and just TRY.  

Fuck

To Smoke or Not To Smoke

Most of you all know that I am a smoker.  For a really long time, my life his kind of revolved around smoking.  The ciggies have been a constant companion in my life.  They have calmed my nerves and relaxed me.  Guided me through tears and turmoil.  They have accompanied many a glass, Okay bottle, of wine or run or whatever.

But now, they are gone.  My friends and constant companions for the last 16 years have been banished from my life.  For the last 87 hours, I have not smoked a cigarette.  Not one.  At all.  

I don't know what to do with myself.

Please do not congratulate me or throw roses at my feet yet.  This is the first time I have ever seriously tried to quit smoking.  The other two times I stopped, I was pregnant, and I really knew that I would most likely begin again.  The thing is I ENJOY smoking.  For non-smokers, that is a really hard thing to explain, but it is just that.  I KNOW that the chances of me falling off the wagon are very good.  My husband already did and we quit at the same time.  My one sister also quit and I think she is standing strong too.  Last night I almost smoked, but by the time my husband got back with the ciggies, I had passed out cold from exhaustion.

I really, really want to smoke.  Even with bronchitis, or walking pneumonia or whatever the hell it is I have this time, I want to smoke so bad it hurts.  Anyone who says that they can quit smoking whenever they want is a damned liar.  And an asshole.  They have never tried it.  I guar-an-tee.

So now I have to figure out things to do to keep from smoking and to take up my time:

1.  Masturbate - win-win

2.  Crochet - will increase my skillz, since it took me 4 years to finish my dad's birthday blanket.

3.  Kill my dogs - this will take approximately 8 seconds.  4 to load the gun, 2 to shoot them and 2 to reflect how I should clean up the mess.  

4.  Kill my dogs - Option #2 - poison.  I will have to spend at least 15 minutes each day mixing the poison in with their kibble, so it will have the added benefit of wasting more time.  However, they won't be dead as soon, so )-=.   

5.  Kill my dogs - Option #3 - train my cat to kill the dogs for me.  This will ease my conscience (meh) and I will spend even more time training my cat in the deadly art form of Ninja Chinese Star throwing.  It will take forever because, well, no opposable thumbs and all.  But he is really smart, so I think I can do it.

6.  Keep my house clean.  Pretty cool, but a lot of work and not as much fun as Cat Ninja Training.

7.  Go back to kickboxing class.  My ass is huuuuuuuuggggeeee!!!!  I need to lose weight and it will help keep my metabolism up which I will need because I am missing the extra metabolism from the cancer sticks.

8.  Start running again.  I hate running, but it will also help me keep up my metabolism and maybe I will even lose some weight.  I am a fat ass.

9.  Make a project list.  There is an ass load of things that need to be done in my house, so I could put together a list and start on it.

10. Plan my garden for next year.

11. Toilet paper my cunty neighbor's house.  This has the added benefit of helping me get rid of some of the ex-smoker's rage that I am carrying around.  I swear to God I am ready to kill someone.

My brain is too tired to think of anything else right now.

I have to travel A LOT for the next little while, but here are some dates if anyone is interested in getting together:

Austin, TX - 1/7 - 1/9

Chicago, IL - 1/12 - 1/14

Columbus, OH - 2/1 - 2/3

San Francisco/Silicon Valley, CA - 2/4 - 2/7

BONUS - my mom is going to try and meet me while I am in California.  I have to get my itinerary - Thank you craptarded travel site for being down for the last week (I still need to book my Chicago trip too!!!) - and see if I can change my flight to come back on the 8th.  I am so excited to see her again so soon and to spend some more time with her.  Hopefully it works out.  If not though, I am going to plan a special weekend trip with her.